Joan M. Paul, 79, Alexandria Bay

ALEXANDRIA BAY, NY – Joan M. Paul, 79, passed away Monday afternoon, Dec. 10, surrounded by her family at SUNY Upstate Medical Center, in Syracuse, where she had been a patient since November 18.

Born Dec. 14, 1938, in Poughkeepsie, NY, the daughter of William and Geneva Reed Kelly, she graduated from Jefferson Community College as a registered nurse.

Joan proceeded to work for many years as an RN, before becoming a drug and alcohol counselor for Canton Potsdam Hospital.

A marriage to David Trainham ended in divorce.

In addition to her children, she raised two of her grandchildren, Nicole Gonio Trainham and Raymond Trainham, Jr, after the death of her son, their father, Raymond Trainham.

She is survived by three children and their spouses, Kenneth Trainham and his wife “Todd”, of Rome, NY, two daughters Mrs. Robert (Kelly) Kernehan and Mrs. Gregory (Peggy) Millett, both of Alexandria Bay, a brother, William Kelly of Florida, 12 grandchildren and many great-grandchildren.

Joan was predeceased by her parents, her husband, Michael Paul, and two children, Joanie Cole and Raymond Trainham.

There will be no services. A family memorial will be held in the spring.

Donations may be made in Joan’s memory to Relay for Life – ACS River Rompers, c/o Alexandria Central School, 34 Bolton Ave, Alexandria Bay, NY 13607.

Arrangements are with Costello Funeral Service, Alexandria Bay.

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